I'm very, very, very sorry about your loss and in no way would I ever try to make light of losing a child. And I totally get how people grieve differently. I had no idea how to grieve for loss of my lifelong best friend until I found
this. Grief is weird and fucked up and odd and so hard to figure out. Everyone deals with it differently. I get it, believe me.
But I will say this much, and I hope you don't take this badly or in a bad way because I don't mean it that way: I don't know what you do for a living, but you are not an NFL head coach. NFL head coaches work so much that they have insane rate of turnover and burnout. They work a hundred+ hours a week during the season, and sleep in the facility often. They're insane maniacs who basically mostly ignore their families because of the billion dollar franchises who lean on them to do their jobs that pay them millions of dollars (capitalism is a nightmare!). If my kid died I don't know what the fuck I would do, I'd probably be suicidal. I'm not Andy Reid. So maybe his coping mechanism was to go deeper into his work. I get it, but then his other kid decided to drive drunk and maim a 5 year old. And then he didn't think it was a good time to step back and help his adult child for a second time.