My nephew is about to turn 13 and is heading into 8th grade. He plays AAA hockey for a team in Western MA as a big RHD D and was an all star in his travel league last season. He's been playing with the U15 and U14 teams in tournaments all summer and just did the prep showcase at NESC last weekend. I don't know if he's good enough for prep hockey and neither does my brother and sister in law but we think he is and he aspires to play on a prep team for high school since our town doesn't have high school hockey. The question for the group is - how does all of that work? How do you choose which teams are right for your player? Do you approach coaches or wait for people to reach out? Any advice would be much appreciated. The schools he likes most are St. Marks in Southborough and Cushing.
Be proactive and send emails to schools he's interested and even not interested in. Include all pertinent information and any highlight film. In terms of schools, you won't really know if they're a fit athletically and academically until you visit and see the schools/meet the coaching staffs.
Speak to parents that have come through your ravel league and are in prep school now to see what the process was for them and how they came about choosing the school(or if the school chose them). It may help narrow your focus in terms of schools to look at or cross off your list.
As far as high school hockey goes, are there opportunities to use school choice to play at a school close to your town that does have HS hockey? I'm from Vermont and this exists up there. Prep schools are super expensive too so there's that factor as well.
A number of my friends growing up in Vermont went the prep school route because they thought they'd get better evaluations for college hockey. Some worked out(a couple did play D-1) and some should have just stayed at our school and played(ended up spending all that money for prep school plus going the Canadian juniors route for a couple years to just go to D3) and gotten the same college result.
One of my family friends' son went to Proctor Academy for hockey and had a very positive experience.