holy sh*t. code red indeed.soxhop411 said:RT @dkurtenbach: Dolphins coaches asked Ricky Incognito to "toughen up" Jonathan Martin. http://touch.sun-sentinel.com/#section/1204/article/p2p-78065907/ …
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People will be getting fired….
holy sh*t. code red indeed.soxhop411 said:RT @dkurtenbach: Dolphins coaches asked Ricky Incognito to "toughen up" Jonathan Martin. http://touch.sun-sentinel.com/#section/1204/article/p2p-78065907/ …
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People will be getting fired….
sodenj5 said:I didn't realize you were actually in the locker room. Thank you for bringing your definitive insight to the conversation.
I'm not saying he deserved to be bullied or that Incognito was justified in doing so. I'm saying that there may be more to the story than what we've heard thus far.
Incognito caught using N-word at bar http://www.cnn.com/video/data/2.0/video/us/2013/11/06/erin-richie-incognito-n-word-rant-dolphins-suspension.cnn.html …JimBoSox9 said:Did I just see a news tease of Incognito roid raging shirtless in a bar on cell camera? I've seen the voicemail transcript and code red report in here but not video. Am I going crazy?
This video is way overblown. I'm not saying he's not an idiot for taking off his shirt and stamping around a bar, but he says "Mike Pouncey, n-----!" and "Who wants a piece?" in reference to his teammate, who is standing right there, and doesn't seem the least bit offended by it and whom he embraces during the video.soxhop411 said:Incognito caught using N-word at bar http://www.cnn.com/video/data/2.0/video/us/2013/11/06/erin-richie-incognito-n-word-rant-dolphins-suspension.cnn.html
kenneycb said:Holy hell internet warrior.
Well we haven't fully heard Incignito's side. We haven't fully heard Philbin's side. We have heard bits and pieces of Martin's side as I imagine his side leaking most of this information.
It's been like two days but apparently a lot of people here know what went down, when it went down and how each party reacted. God forbid someone plead ignorance to a hot take when a lot of information is still coming out.
sodenj5 said:Ricky Williams weighs in on the Martin-Incognito story:
"Maybe he [Martin] doesn't belong in the NFL."
http://www.nfl.com/news/story/0ap2000000277233/article/ricky-williams-maybe-dolphins-martin-doesnt-belong-in-the-nfl
On relating to Martin considering he quit football for a period:
"I think I can relate and I can speak on this because I was at a point where I was done with the NFL and I needed to take a break. But unlike Jonathan, I didn't have to find a scapegoat or someone to blame. I just failed a drug test. But I didn't have to bring anyone else down when I found out that I just couldn't handle what I was going through at the time."
[SIZE=14.999999046325684px]Ricky on how he would have reacted to Incognito's message:[/SIZE][SIZE=14.999999046325684px] [/SIZE]
"I never made it a personal attack on me. I just considered it part of the game. When I came in as a rookie, they called me 'Ricky Weirdo.' And they busted my balls and they gave me a hard time, but I just laughed because it was funny."
And: "If someone sent me those messages, I would send a text back and call him a redneck and put 'lol.' To me, situations that you got yourself into, you got yourself into. It falls on you to find a way to get yourself out. And I'm not judging the way he got himself out of the situation. I actually think it's quite brilliant.
Ricky on what should have happened:
"If I was on the team, and I saw this getting out of hand, I'd just go up to Richie, tap him on the shoulder and say, 'Hey, why don't you lay off. I think he's had too much.' But if you look at the situation, I think people are getting facts here and there and not looking at what occurred ..
And: "(Martin) is fighting back in his own way. There's all these text messages and these voice messages. It takes some awareness and some planning and some orchestration to actually save those and record those. ... (Martin) is fighting (Incognito), but he's just doing it in his own way. If we're going to talk about the story as a hazing story - which doesn't fit - or as a bullying story, it's really a great example of the kid that is 'getting bullied' fighting back in his own way. I think they're both victims. I think the truth is never going to come out. One guy has a paid vacation. And one guy has a vacation that's not paid right now."
This may be the first reference to the NFL as non-profit I have seen.brohirrum said:So i have not read through this forum completely yet but my two cents are simple.
Organizations, businesses, and schools are cracking down on hazing like never before.
The fact it is in a NFL locker room makes zero difference. First and foremost the NFL is a business (even if its a non-profit entity) and like any business or organization hazing is illegal and leads to federal charges. Simply cutting the rookies hair and making them carry shoulder pads is hazing.
I'm am shocked a rookie with very little future in the NFL has not sued a team for workplace harassment.
I have no problem with hazing and may or may not been part of it at school. But that was not a business and did not effect any ones economic well being.
just my thought on the matter
smastroyin said:As much as I think Richie is a scumbag, I also wouldn't be all that surprised to hear that he was tacitly given the order to preform a code red equivalent on martin. I'm going to guess that Martin did not enamour himself with the other guys on the line, or the line coach, given his personality and performance. It doesn't excuse his behavior or methods, of course, but I also have a hard time believing that none of this was known to the coaching staff.
pdaj said:
Why let facts get in the way of our own assumptions, prejudices, and agendas? We have "leaked" information from unconfirmed, anonymous sources as proof! Waiting for the process to unfold and allowing all participants to communicate their sides is far less entertaining. Plus, it's not the Patriots involved this time. Yay!
singaporesoxfan said:Of course we should get as much info as we can, but I just don't see what additional details could come out that would make me feel better about what Incognito did. What about Incognito's side of the story would make the situation any more acceptable? And that's even though I think there's a good chance that in Incognito's mind, he was just joshing around with a pal, and that Incognito is genuinely surprised that Martin felt so hurt.
soxfan121 said:
I understand how powerless and helpless Jonathan Martin may have felt while his peers made him the butt of their pranks and jokes. I understand how afraid and cowardly Jonathan Martin may have felt when his family was threatened or when his own life was threatened. And I totally understand how Jonathan Martin felt when someone told him to "just fight back" against his tormentors.
Thank you for such an amazing post. I am also going to save this for my son to show him in a few years.soxfan121 said:
Personally, this has nothing to do with what team I happen to root for on Sunday. I'm a human being and a father and someone who has a long history with bullying - on both sides of it. I certainly do have an agenda, prejudices and am willing to draw inferences or assumptions based on incomplete facts. That is, like, the basic definition of a message board poster. But my take here has nothing to do with laundry or team affiliation. I certainly understand why you would think a Patriots fan would be using this to 'stick it to the Dolphins' - it's a large part of your "prejudices, agenda and assumptions" - but were this happening ANYWHERE I'd feel the same about it and would have the same opinion.
See, I was a "Big Weirdo" growing up. I was also a coward, in that I did not fight back. I have sympathy and empathy for Jonathan Martin because I was physically assaulted through fifth, sixth and seventh grade, both in a team sports context and in general. I had cruel pranks played on me, was the butt of the jokes and had to go to hospital for a a broken nose and fingers when I was caught by a few of my tormentors outside the library (with my books) instead of going to football tryouts as a seventh grader.
And then, my family moved to another town (and not because I was being bullied, because Dad got transferred). And I was still big. On my first day at the new school, I was told by the vice principal (and football coach) that I could "be anyone I wanted to be. Start fresh." (and start for the 8th grade team) So I did. I became a bully. I picked on kids who were smaller. I played cruel pranks on other kids. I got a reputation as a "mean motherfucker". I took lunch money. I threw one small kid around during gym class, rolled him into a wrestling mat and sat on him while he cried as the other 8th grade football players laughed. I threw lots of punches and became a fixture in that vice principal's office for these actions. And I grew to hate myself.
So, when I got to ninth grade and another new school (same town), I decided to really follow the advice and became one of those high school kids who hated everything and everyone. I took up smoking, quit football and quit trying to make friends. As a freshman, I knocked the senior captain of the football team on his ass with one punch and told the other guys in the jackets to go fuck themselves. I had a reputation there as well - as the Big Outcast. And it was fine with me - no one fucked with me and I didn't have to deal with anyone picking on me.
Until one day in the 11th grade, while smoking behind the gym, I watched a pack of my classmates picking on a small 9th grader. There were six of them calling him a "faggot" and laughing while he cried and cowered. And I snapped. I broke two noses, five fingers and kicked the everliving shit out of three of the largest kids in that pack of assholes. It was one of the proudest moments of my life and one that forms the basis for the man I am today. I defended a kid who I didn't know from some assholes who were doing to him what I had had done to me when I was younger.
Oh, and the kid I threw into the wrestling mat and sat on? I sought him out and apologized. I told him why I did what I did and why I knew it was wrong and that I would spend the rest of my life regretting it. I made amends, paying for his broken glasses and working for free at his family farm on Saturdays for the next two years. And today, that man is my best friend and was the best man in my wedding.
Respectfully, my opinion on this issue has NOTHING to do with NFL team rooting interest. It has to do with my history as someone who was bullied, who was picked on, who was assaulted and who was humiliated. And it has to do with my history as someone who bullied other kids, who picked on other kids, who assaulted other kids and who humiliated other kids. And it has to do with choices I made to defend others and to work at being someone who resolved disputes with apologies and amends and not fists and hateful words.
I understand how powerless and helpless Jonathan Martin may have felt while his peers made him the butt of their pranks and jokes. I understand how afraid and cowardly Jonathan Martin may have felt when his family was threatened or when his own life was threatened. And I totally understand how Jonathan Martin felt when someone told him to "just fight back" against his tormentors. Because when you're not wired to be a bully, you feel even worse being the bully. There was never a time in my life where I liked who I was less than when I was the bully. I hated myself. And while I have no regrets about breaking noses and fingers to defend someone else, I didn't do it to make myself feel better or to "improve" my reputation. I did it to protect someone who needed to be protected. I did it because when it is six-on-one, it is the responsibility of SOMEONE to step up and help that one out. I am most proud that I worked my ass off to make amends to that kid I bullied because I was trying earn the respect of people who didn't deserve respect themselves. I realized that being a bully and humiliating others made ME the asshole who wasn't worthy of respect. And I resolved to change.
So, no...I don't feel that I need to wait for all sides of the story to come out. I know all sides of this story. I lived it. I have sympathy for Jonathan Martin and respect for him walking away. I am repulsed by Richie Incognito because I've been Richie Incognito, bully. I don't need anything other than the voicemail to judge Richie Incognito as guilty of bullying because I recognize his actions in my own, regrettable history.
And I really don't need to worry about the laundry or the rooting interest on Sunday to have a strong opinion about this issue. I could not care less that this is happening to Miami - I care that it IS happening in Miami. Were it happening in Foxboro, I'd be just as disgusted and outraged. You can believe that this about some stupid fan rivalry if you want but that would be using your "assumptions, prejudices and agendas" to excuse what is inexcusable behavior in a professional work environment or in a school or, really, anywhere in a world where people aren't assholes to each other.
OilCanShotTupac said:
Yeah, I was surpised by how angry Jackson was. He was clearly very pissed off by the idea that football players had to be held to lower standards in the locker room.
I crap on ESPN as much as anyone, and I think they suck in many ways, but I've always liked Tom Jackson, and he was righteous today.
curly2 said:
It seems the culture in baseball for rookies is the polar opposite of the NFL. The veterans dress the rookies up in goofy costumes one day a year in September, and that's about it. In fact, I've heard/read lots of stories where the high-priced veterans take out the rookies and pick up the tab. The line is invariably something like, "When I came up (insert veteran from a decade earlier) bought for us. Someday it will be your turn to pick up the check for the kids."
From a Peter Abraham story in February.
http://www.boston.com/sports/baseball/2013/02/06/after-bruising-years-lackey-ready-take-mound/Ze6tVclXRrZm2rRtv3cRxH/story.html
The way baseball does it makes a hell of a lot more sense.
twibnotes said:Do your experiences give you any empathy towards Incognito or is he too old to be given any latitude? Personally, I don't feel an ounce of sympathy or empathy towards the guy, but I'd be curious to get your take since you've been on both sides.
Ditto. Great series of posts Soxfan.Leskanic's_Thread said:Yeah, apologies for having nothing new to contribute to the conversation, but want to add another hat-tip to Soxfan. An excellent piece of writing about a frequently misunderstood (or perhaps mishandled) topic.
pdaj said:
Why let facts get in the way of our own assumptions, prejudices, and agendas? We have "leaked" information from unconfirmed, anonymous sources as proof! Waiting for the process to unfold and allowing all participants to communicate their sides is far less entertaining. Plus, it's not the Patriots involved this time. Yay!
soxfan121 said:
Really, it comes down to the fact that the MEN in my life found my behavior repulsive and appalling - and let me know they found it repulsive and appalling. And then it was on me to change that behavior. So...I am genuinely touched that some of you will share my experience with your sons/children. Because it takes a real man to walk away. It takes a real man to help someone change. It takes a real man to say that "this is not acceptable behavior". It takes many, many positive influences for someone to truly change. And it takes REAL bravery to stand up and say "THIS SHIT IS NOT OK!" to a crowd of people who think that what they are doing is "just part of the game". I admire Jonathan Martin for walking away. There is no doubt in my mind that Jonathan Martin was called "Big Weirdo" for the first time in Miami. Martin, if he is the man he is reported to be, turned the other cheek for YEARS when teammates or bullies challenged him. Jonathan Martin, for not answering hate with hate, is a real man and worthy of admiration and respect.
There's an active investigation by the league on the matter with a potential lawsuit coming. They'd be dumb to not do it.Devizier said:
Considering that the Dolphins have acted tangibly on these apparent leaks by suspending Incognito, I think they are more credible than you are claiming.
sodenj5 said:I didn't realize you were actually in the locker room. Thank you for bringing your definitive insight to the conversation.
I'm not saying he deserved to be bullied or that Incognito was justified in doing so. I'm saying that there may be more to the story than what we've heard thus far.
soxhop411 said:RT @dkurtenbach: Dolphins coaches asked Ricky Incognito to "toughen up" Jonathan Martin. http://touch.sun-sentinel.com/#section/1204/article/p2p-78065907/ …
sodenj5 said:This video is way overblown. I'm not saying he's not an idiot for taking off his shirt and stamping around a bar, but he says "Mike Pouncey, n-----!" and "Who wants a piece?" in reference to his teammate, who is standing right there, and doesn't seem the least bit offended by it and whom he embraces during the video.
Judging by his reaction, it looks like someone tried to start some shit or was bothering Pouncey, and this was Incognito's reaction. It's hard to say because there's no context, just "watch Richie Incognito say the N word in a bar shirtless! OMGZ!"
Edit: A link to the full video referenced by CNN from TMZ. They give a little more backstory.
http://m.tmz.com/#Article/2013/11/04/richie-incognito-n-word-bar-rage-video
dcmissle said:People are kidding themselves if they think RI won't be picked up by another team based on what we know now.
kenneycb said:There's an active investigation by the league on the matter with a potential lawsuit coming. They'd be dumb to not do it.
It means that I'm pro-bullying and love Richie Incognito.Average Reds said:
What does this mean? You are acting as if we have not seen reports as to what is in the texts, voicemails, etc. And if the reports are accurate, this evidence is dispositive. If you don't agree, I challenge you to come up with a context in which the (allegedly) sickening racism isn't as bad as it looks.
Second point is this: we're not in court and the presumption of innocence doesn't apply. It's a truism that information will eventually come out that will refine our view of things, but to pretend that we don't have any reason to make judgments about Incognito right now is disingenuous in the extreme.
Reverend said:I'm seeing more and more current and former players speaking out against Incognito and the Dolphins. This is a good thing.
There is, perhaps, opportunity here. As per what I posted earlier and soxfan121's most excellent posts, perhaps we can elevate this to a discussion of paradigms.
"I’m real disappointed in the leadership in the locker room down there in Miami.”
“I know Jonathan Martin didn’t feel comfortable enough to go to any of the guys because either you’re encouraging it or you’re just turning a blind eye and allowing the guy to get treated like he was getting treated,” Fletcher said. “And that’s the biggest thing that disappointed me the most about the situation is because there was not a veteran guy strong enough to stop what was happening to that young man.”
soxfan121 said:
And I really don't need to worry about the laundry or the rooting interest on Sunday to have a strong opinion about this issue. I could not care less that this is happening to Miami - I care that it IS happening in Miami. Were it happening in Foxboro, I'd be just as disgusted and outraged. You can believe that this about some stupid fan rivalry if you want but that would be using your "assumptions, prejudices and agendas" to excuse what is inexcusable behavior in a professional work environment or in a school or, really, anywhere in a world where people aren't assholes to each other.
Well said. Racial slurs are not acceptable. Death threats are not acceptable. Coaches siccing a player with Incognito's history on a player they thought was "soft" is not acceptable. It's wrong and I have no trouble saying it is not acceptable, regardless of uniform color.
Van Everyman said:Anyway, agreed â I'd love to know whether you have any sympathy for RI in this. He looks like a pretty loathsome guy but as has been mentioned, he did experience bullying himself as a kid.
soxfan121 said:Really, it comes down to the fact that the MEN in my life found my behavior repulsive and appalling - and let me know they found it repulsive and appalling. And then it was on me to change that behavior. So...I am genuinely touched that some of you will share my experience with your sons/children. Because it takes a real man to walk away. It takes a real man to help someone change. It takes a real man to say that "this is not acceptable behavior". It takes many, many positive influences for someone to truly change. And it takes REAL bravery to stand up and say "THIS SHIT IS NOT OK!" to a crowd of people who think that what they are doing is "just part of the game". I admire Jonathan Martin for walking away. There is no doubt in my mind that Jonathan Martin was called "Big Weirdo" for the first time in Miami. Martin, if he is the man he is reported to be, turned the other cheek for YEARS when teammates or bullies challenged him. Jonathan Martin, for not answering hate with hate, is a real man and worthy of admiration and respect.
I am so thankful today that I had people in my life who cared enough about me to tell me what an asshole I was and how I had hurt others. I wouldn't be here, that's for sure. So, if these words can help someone else change or avoid becoming a bully...then I am eternally grateful and very lucky to have that opportunity. And I wish Richie Incognito had had the same opportunity.
Still, use of the n-word is not acceptable. Death threats are not acceptable. And you truly reap what you sow in life, so Richie Incognito is getting what he deserves. Whether he changes his behavior or uses this to find the strength to make amends is now up to him.