You succinctly summarized how I feel about the issue.Yup the Clark-Reese thing in is a non story, but sucks that it is being argued in racial terms online. One side is rightfully defensive (see: all of American history) of how Reese is being portrayed versus a player of the pale persuasion doing similar things, and the other side is being intentionally obtuse and non-empathetic. I think the two actions are not EXACTLY the same since one occurred in the flow of the game while the other was a good long chase down after the game, but none of this means all that much in the grand scheme. Although I thought based on NBA twitter that kids this young would be "sub-tweeting" after the game instead (hand/face/ring emojis).
IMHO, Reese displayed a lack of grace in victory, and it's fair to call her out for it.