Stacy Wakefield has passed away from cancer

Ale Xander

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Fuck cancer

it’s just not fair
The couple was so selfless, always trying to help others
And the poor kids
RIP Stacy
 

Humphrey

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Blessings and peace to the Wakefield family.

As someone who lost his Dad to pancreatic cancer in my teens, in a span of 6 months, it hurts to hear this and think of how those kids have had their world shattered and turned inside out in the last year.
Lost my dad to pc as well. I think he was gone in 6-7 weeks from the diagnosis. Sore back and they couldn't figure out what it was causing it.
 

Norm Siebern

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There are no words. Just hopes for peace, strength, and memories of love and better times for the family, especially the children.

And even in our sleep, pain which cannot forget falls drop by drop upon the heart, until in our own despair, against our will, comes wisdom through the awful grace of God.” Aeschylus
 

Otis Foster

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Horrible for any family, and for this to happen to two outstanding civic contributors is a double punch in the gonads.

Heartfelt sympathy to the Wakefield children and the wider family.
 

mr_smith02

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I have had a year that makes me question so much and has shattered pretty much all the faith I once had...watching the Wakefield family and their friends go through all they have has not helped at all. I truly hope there's a place of peace for Stacy and Tim's children and family.
 

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In September 2008, my wife and I brought our oldest child, our son, to his first day of kindergarten. We both went because they had an event for parents first thing in the morning, and I was surprised to see the Wakefields there (Tim and I were the only two dads), and only learned then that their son was in the same class as my son. We all sat on tiny little chairs and listened to the teacher talk about what the kids were going to do over the school year. I'm happy that I got to see that side of Tim (regular guy/dad doing a regular guy/dad thing). It's really hard to believe that those two people have passed and that their poor kids (who are legally adults, but are still "kids" in a lot of ways) have lost both parents. Very sad day. Hug your kids.
 

donutogre

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I can’t believe it… that’s far, far more than any family should have to deal with in less than a year. Glio and pancreatic cancer is like winning the shit lottery, having them both happen to a married couple in the span of a year is unfathomable. Those poor kids.
 

Nixon Now!!

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"Yes" to all of the above comments on the truly great members of the Wakefield family.

May the Lord blees thee and keep thee.
May the Lord make His face to shine upon thee and be gracious to thee.
May the Lord lift up His countenance upon thee and grant thee peace.
Amen.
 

Al Zarilla

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This is tragic. If somebody read from afar that a husband and wife of those ages passed away from cancer within a year of each other, they’d think it was a bad misprint.

I just hope that there are aunts and uncles or godparents to look after those children.
 

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I just noticed that the home opener is on April 9th.
4/9

I would have to imagine the team would do something given their meaning to the team and community. The date is too much of a coincidence to avoid.
 

danajf

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I very rarely post on this forum, but as someone who lost both parents from cancer before the age of twenty one, I hopefully can offer a little perspective.

My parents had demons, but even with that, it was awfully hard to navigate making decisions in adulthood without your parents to at least listen, if not offer guidance and support. It leaves you flailing at times, wondering if you are doing the right thing, and often the self-doubt would be overwhelming.

While we certainly know that the Wakefield children have the financial resources they need, and as others have said, the Wakefields likely set them up with the emotional support they will need, I can only think that a powerful, symbolic gesture would be for the Red Sox and their fans to say to these children that we so appreciated the great human beings their parents were. That we care about their well-being, and perhaps we share with them a memorial set of messages to say, in our own ways, "We so appreciated your parents for the kind, generous, warm, caring people they were, and if we can in any way help you navigate the road you are on, we are here for you." Even if it doesn't manifest in any specific action, the symbolic power of it could mean something as these children work through a life without parents. Perhaps we share our best memories of Tim and, to the extent we can, Stacy, and they simply can read that and have a little solace.
 

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Steve Buckley on the Wakefield family commitment to the Jimmy Fund, and Stacy's final visit to Dana Farber
Yet here it was, Christmastime, and Stacy Wakefield was on the phone with Lisa Scherber, the longtime director of patient and family programs at the Jimmy Fund Clinic. Stacy would be there, accompanied by Brianna, by now a veteran of these events herself.
“Stacy was not in a great place physically,” Scherber said. “She sort of stayed in front of the clinic, sitting down. And I took Brianna around. All I could think of was how proud Stacy was of Brianna.”
https://theathletic.com/5306991/2024/02/28/jimmy-fund-stacy-tim-wakefield-cancer/?source=emp_shared_article
 

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"He who learns must suffer. And even in our sleep, pain that cannot forget falls drop by drop upon the heart, and in our own despair, against our will, comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God. Happiness is a choice that requires effort at times. There is no pain so great as the memory of joy in present grief." - Aeschylus.
 

Bergs

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Mrs. Bergs asked if I heard that Tim Wakefield's wife had died. I told her I had heard about Stacy, and - at first - (and because I'm a wiseass) Mrs. Bergs thought I was kinda joking using her given name like I knew her. Then I started crying. Fuck.
 

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Speaking of the words, did the team purposefully phrase this as such: "The loss is unimaginable, especially in the wake of losing Tim just under five months ago."

Obviously they weren't trying to be clever in such a sad and somber announcement but seems strange. I noticed it right away.

RIP, Stacy.
A bit late on the reply but I hadn’t actually seen or read the statement till now. The statement containing that phrase came from the family.
 

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That's incredibly tragic. I can't imagine what their kids are going through. My parents helped me so much in my early adult life and I don't know where I'd be today if I didn't have their guidance in my late teens/early 20s. RIP Stacy.
 
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Just awful. I just lost a friend, mid-40s, to pancreatic cancer on Monday. Had a pain in his side in late December, and died 2 months later. Super aggressive and they couldn't even get him stable enough to fight it. Fuck Cancer!
 

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So many of us have benefited from being able to lean on our parents as we enter adulthood. At a time when our personal paths are really starting to develop mentorship is so important. Consultations, guidance and friendship from the people that we value the most and from those who value can be such an influence as to who we become. From the glimpse that we've had into who Tim and Stacy Wakefield are, I'm confident that they have set a wonderful example for Brianna and Trevor. At just 19 and 20 years old they will surely have a lot to digest and work through, but Tim and Stacy appear to have given their children a wonderful foundation. The Wakefield family seems to be so well loved and respected that they won't be left to go through this alone. My sincere and heartfelt sympathies to the entire Wakefield family and friends as they move forward.
 

Ale Xander

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Apologies if this isn't the proper place to post it, but I figure it can't hurt. This disease hitting people around my age is a shock to my mortality.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/pancreatic-cancer/symptoms-causes/syc-20355421

Symptoms
Pancreatic cancer often doesn't cause symptoms until the disease is advanced. When they happen, signs and symptoms of pancreatic cancer may include:
  • Belly pain that spreads to the sides or back.
  • Loss of appetite.
  • Weight loss.
  • Yellowing of the skin and the whites of the eyes, called jaundice.
  • Light-colored or floating stools.
  • Dark-colored urine.
  • Itching.
  • New diagnosis of diabetes or diabetes that's getting harder to control.
  • Pain and swelling in an arm or leg, which might be caused by a blood clot.
  • Tiredness or weakness.
When to see a doctor
Make an appointment with a health care professional if you have symptoms that worry you.
 

InsideTheParker

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Apologies if this isn't the proper place to post it, but I figure it can't hurt. This disease hitting people around my age is a shock to my mortality.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/pancreatic-cancer/symptoms-causes/syc-20355421

Symptoms
Pancreatic cancer often doesn't cause symptoms until the disease is advanced. When they happen, signs and symptoms of pancreatic cancer may include:
  • Belly pain that spreads to the sides or back.
  • Loss of appetite.
  • Weight loss.
  • Yellowing of the skin and the whites of the eyes, called jaundice.
  • Light-colored or floating stools.
  • Dark-colored urine.
  • Itching.
  • New diagnosis of diabetes or diabetes that's getting harder to control.
  • Pain and swelling in an arm or leg, which might be caused by a blood clot.
  • Tiredness or weakness.
When to see a doctor
Make an appointment with a health care professional if you have symptoms that worry you.
Whenever you have symptoms, if it's pancreatic cancer, it's probably too late. This is an organization we supported after my sister died of it:
https://lustgarten.org
 

Rovin Romine

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My mother died from this last year. They caught it "earlyish" when looking for an issue with gallstones, and she went through whipple surgery. It went well and they thought they got everything, and her scans were clean following chemo. But, out of the blue, the cancer came roaring back within a year, having hidden out somewhere in her system apparently. And after that things went downhill pretty quickly.

It's a very difficult cancer to catch early, and a very difficult organ to treat.

The only somewhat-recent good news is that the whipple surgery used to be a very chancy thing. Now the survival rate is much higher. So if you're lucky enough to catch it early, the surgery can make a significant difference. Still a bitch of a card to draw though.
 

Sox Pride

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Oh so sad.
i just lost my father to a longterm cancer last year.
i beat a much milder form of cancer ~5 years ago.

i mourn most for the Wakefield children.