I really wish that I hadn’t searched for that exchange.
Ok even tho I suspect this will only drag this out further, I will try to clear up where I was coming from on this since you are bringing this up in the train derailment(!) thread.
A bunch of posters had an immediate and harshly negative take on Rihanna’s performance – not only talking about how Rihanna looked pregnant, but also how she was lip syncing and how her show sucked compared to the Who and Tom Petty. It felt pretty clearly like dude hive mind/energy justified by “My wife also says she looks pregnant!”
On the lip-syncing issue, as one poster correctly noted, she had pre-recorded background vocals and double tracks, but was clearly singing live on top of that. Rihanna is a hell of a singer, FWIW.
More to the point: the show—the music, style and aesthetic—wasn’t really targeted to middle aged dudes like a lot of us here. My thirteen and fifteen year old daughters both loved it unconditionally, called her performance “straight fire” and both loved her costume as well.
Now, cool, it turned out Rihanna was pregnant after all (even one of my daughters asked near the end of her performance after gushing about the whole thing). And I suspect some posters querying about the pregnancy thing weren’t also complaining about the performance, so it may have been a case of me reacting to the sum total of negative reactions.
But it just kind of felt like a lot of dudes teetering close to kind of an unpleasant line. If I was wrong to draw that conclusion, I apologize. /end