I Have to add to the accolades for Soxfan121's posts- a superb share that I appreciate a great deal.
The axiom that we are each responsible for what we speak, write, or act is pertinent to RI's self-inflicted shit storm.
The words, the extortion, the threats, are simply indefensible now that they are out for the general public.
Perhaps it is NFL culture to be violent and to demean and extort and threaten it wouldn't surprise me in any way, but that still does not make it ok.
RI did not make one mistake, he has made an absolute parade of serious mistakes.
The most recent one, in my opinion the death knell, is that he has not apologized.
There is a cost for being unaware of others' response to your words, or deeds.
Sometimes the cost is small, and sometimes the cost is huge.
The part people struggle with, and RI seems to continue to struggle with, is that RI does not get to decide other peoples responses.
RI is no longer in his tiny little sphere of influence in which he is seemingly unchecked (and even actively supported).
RI is now in an absolutely powerless position of public and legal scrutiny.
He is fucked, and he is responsible for it.
Were I RI's (newly hired) PR firm, he would have solemnly apologized in front of as many cameras as possible.
He would apologize to Martin, his family, The Dolphins and the fans.
He would be holding a giant check for the half-n foundation (?) and another giant check for the slapped mothers foundation (?)
He would then announce he will be in hillbilly rehab for the next 30 days, followed 30 days later by a
PR marathon on every daytime TV talk show in which he tells "his side of the story", which is that he "was"
an unaware asshole, who hurt a lot of people, and now he has learned to communicate nonviolently and is extremely sorry.
If possible, Martin would come out, and they would hug, and a montage of them fishing, or playing gin rummy would play and everyone
would clap and some would cry.
It is the proven formula which slowly revs down the shit storm.
It is the healthy people that leave sick systems- good for Martin for leaving.
I am not surprised that people blame Martin in this way or that way- but at what point do we stop deciding how someone "should" react to an experience?
I was so fucking distraught after the Jets game, because it was a fucking debacle the pats should have won, it felt like a 12 hour long gut punch.
Someone not on this board, might think that my reaction was completely invalid because it was "just a game"...
The axiom that we are each responsible for what we speak, write, or act is pertinent to RI's self-inflicted shit storm.
The words, the extortion, the threats, are simply indefensible now that they are out for the general public.
Perhaps it is NFL culture to be violent and to demean and extort and threaten it wouldn't surprise me in any way, but that still does not make it ok.
RI did not make one mistake, he has made an absolute parade of serious mistakes.
The most recent one, in my opinion the death knell, is that he has not apologized.
There is a cost for being unaware of others' response to your words, or deeds.
Sometimes the cost is small, and sometimes the cost is huge.
The part people struggle with, and RI seems to continue to struggle with, is that RI does not get to decide other peoples responses.
RI is no longer in his tiny little sphere of influence in which he is seemingly unchecked (and even actively supported).
RI is now in an absolutely powerless position of public and legal scrutiny.
He is fucked, and he is responsible for it.
Were I RI's (newly hired) PR firm, he would have solemnly apologized in front of as many cameras as possible.
He would apologize to Martin, his family, The Dolphins and the fans.
He would be holding a giant check for the half-n foundation (?) and another giant check for the slapped mothers foundation (?)
He would then announce he will be in hillbilly rehab for the next 30 days, followed 30 days later by a
PR marathon on every daytime TV talk show in which he tells "his side of the story", which is that he "was"
an unaware asshole, who hurt a lot of people, and now he has learned to communicate nonviolently and is extremely sorry.
If possible, Martin would come out, and they would hug, and a montage of them fishing, or playing gin rummy would play and everyone
would clap and some would cry.
It is the proven formula which slowly revs down the shit storm.
It is the healthy people that leave sick systems- good for Martin for leaving.
I am not surprised that people blame Martin in this way or that way- but at what point do we stop deciding how someone "should" react to an experience?
I was so fucking distraught after the Jets game, because it was a fucking debacle the pats should have won, it felt like a 12 hour long gut punch.
Someone not on this board, might think that my reaction was completely invalid because it was "just a game"...