I was leaning more towards from a friend's perspective. You might not know that your friend is gay, and they may not be comfortable telling anyone yet. Using that language to sound 'cool' in front of your friends actually makes you ignorant, but they may not realize it until it's overtly pointed out to them. And there is no benefit to anyone in phrasing things that way. If you think something is stupid, call it stupid. They have many other creative word choices they can useWas the “never know who’s listening” phrased in terms of you might get caught or you might genuinely offend/hurt someone? I’m curious whether it’s more effective to try to convince people to do the right thing or to do the potentially self-beneficial thing.