The Allented Mr Ripley said:I see many a date ending early with that line of questioning.
Spacemans Bong said:
I think this line of thinking will get transwomen killed. Transwomen don't need to walk around with a flashing sign above their heads, but I think keeping schtum on the situation is not going to lead to embarrassment or awkward moments, but potentially violence.
I don't know how to clarify that I was perfectly serious (about the onus being on the person who doesn't want to have sex with a trans person), but not being serious (that I don't see anyone actually asking this question).
To re-frame the issue, I might put it like this (with apologies to Jose Melendez, this is not a direct parallel to what he was asking): If one is bigoted against trans people, does one have a duty to inform potential sexual partners? If so, at what point? Does it depend on where you are in transition?
There is something particularly, I don't know... entitled about the notion that other people are obligated to proactively warn me that there is some non-dangerous reason why I might not want to have sex with them.