I hear you. Winning makes losing not as horrible.
The Pat Dye thing was torture. SU was undefeated, and actually had a chance at the national title that year. Auburn already had one loss and was out of the national championship picture. They had a chance in the last second to play for the win, but instead Pat Dye cowardly went for the tie, which accomplished absolutely nothing for Auburn but which cost SU any chance at a national title. When called on it, his response was simply, If Syracuse wanted to win, they should have blocked the field goal. What an asshat kind of statement. I would much rather have had SU lose on a last-second TD by Auburn than to have a tie game.
This article from SI at the time really takes Dye to task, and rightfully so:
http://sportsillustrated.cnn.com/vault/article/magazine/MAG1066916/
It was one of the most aggravating sports moments of my life, and my team didn't even lose. Dye deserved every ounce of crap he took for that weak decision.
But hey, I'm not still bitter ;-)