My daughter is our team's catcher. Our other catcher is a really good kid who works very hard. She is not as experienced as my daughter, and I have gone to great lengths to train her, and show her the nuances of catching. She's very coachable, works very hard and listens well.
Here is the problem, and it's been going on since September when she joined the team. The mother is pushing her too hard. She goes to speed and agility training twice a week, lifts weights, take catching lessons, batting lessons......it's just off the charts. She's probably doing extra work six days a week, on top of team practices. We had scrimmage games in the fall where she would come from a catching lesson, and she looked so mentally fried that we were afraid to let her catch. I am the last person to tell a kid that she is working too hard.....heck, my daughter lifts and takes extra batting and catching work also. But the amount of work is more reasonable and allows her to have a life, do her schoolwork, not become burned out..etc..... This kid is just fried.
Her mother is a single parent, and I had coaches who wanted to cut the kid in the fall because she wouldn't stop complaining about everything. I have diffused a few situations, because she's a great kid, and I would hate to see her suffer because her mother is intolerable.
She has gotten better, but the proverbial shit hit the fan recently. The kid was complaining about a sore arm, and the doctor sent her for an MRI. After the MRI, they were concerned enough to order an additional MRI. This is usually not good. She hurt her throwing arm doing dumbell curls with too much weight. So this mother has her continuing to go to her school tryouts and play through this against doctor's orders so that she will make the team. She wanted her to play for us still also, but we shut her down until we have medical documentation that she is OK to play. Her grandfather even says that he can't reason with the mother, and actually thanked us for shutting her down. She has actually lied to us about the situation and we caught her in it.
Now we're not even sure what is going on. Supposedly, she has had three MRIs now! And now she says that the results came back and it is something that will just heal. She says she is now going to take her to an ortho, and that she has only seen the pediatrician thus far. I have never heard of a pediatrician ordering three MRIs without sending her to a specialist.
We know that she is going to push for the kid to come back, and frankly, we are afraid that she is going to damage her arm to the point that it affects her softball career. I wouldn't be surprised if she got a fake doctor's note that she could play.
The whole thing is just mind-boggling at this point. I can't believe someone would be so unreasonable dealing with their own kid's health. We don't know what to expect now. We're still not letting her play.
Edited by Purpose Pitch, 03 April 2008 - 11:57 AM.